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Anonymous asked: so, i really really like one of my best friends, like seriously she is all i think about everyday and everything she says or does i over analyse it and its so annoying. Also, as we are really close when she says that she loves me and holds my hand and all that, its really hard to keep telling myself that she only does it in a friends way and i get really jealous whenever she does it with other people. i don't know what to do, also only two other people know I like girls, what do i do? :(

reading my last advice piece might help but you should probably tell her how you feel; i’m making the assumption that you are both females and your friend is already a confirmed lesbian.  

if she’s not a lesbian you need to make the decision of “is it worth jeopardizing my friendship over”.

if she’s not receptive to to well then thats just the way the cookie crumbles and don’t take it to heart because if it was really meant to be it would be

Anonymous asked: I just read your advice about lesbians and being friends. I was on the other end of that situation. I loved my lesbian friend. She was my best friend. She rejected me. (rightly so; she never thought of me that way) regardless, I still think about her all the time. I sabotage my own relationships because she is the only person I want in my life. I want to convince her to give me a change without begging, I want to be worth her love. But i don't another broken heart again. is there a magic spell?

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Ask Brolic Ketchum: Lesbians pt 2

"I just read your advice about lesbians and being friends. I was on the other end of that situation. I loved my lesbian friend. She was my best friend. She rejected me. (rightly so; she never thought of me that way) regardless, I still think about her all the time. I sabotage my own relationships because she is the only person I want in my life. I want to convince her to give me a change without begging, I want to be worth her love. But i don’t another broken heart again. is there a magic spell?"


Have you always been openly gay? or has the feelings you’ve conjured for you friend made you not be able to deny the feelings you now have for your friend? if so continue reading the next paragraph if not and you’ve always been an openly gay person skip to last paragraph

I ask this question because if you told you bff that you like her and she was in fact the first girl you ever like admitted to liking that could be a bit unnerving for your friends.  She’s an out and open lesbian she knows what her orientation is she doesn’t need to question her sexuality. You straightness is probably what propelled the friendship so far because your friend believe there could never be a chance because hey, you like dudes.  You were her easiest female friendship since she felt like all anything could ever come out of this situation is friendship.  Now you’ve revealed how you feel about her; its weirded her out to be honest.  It completely changes the dynamic of the relationship.  Now there’s tensions and emotions there that were non existent until you admitted you feelings.  Also if you’ve recently revealed your lesbian desires to her when she previously believe you were straight then she may take you crush as more confusion or a phase than an actual crush;  and that maybe you’ve lost faith in romance elsewhere so you’re giving this lesbian thing a whirl and who better to try it with than your bff.  

all these factors could attribute to why she rejected you she’s not convinced in the sincerity of your advances. so maybe if you can prove to her that you mean it she’ll be a bit more receptive to you



If you’ve always been gay and you best friend happens to be gay too well that answer is a whole lot more simple.  Accept the fact that she only see’s you as a friend. you have to decide whether you can be fine with being in her life as only a friend or not.  if she doesn’t want to be with you there is nothing you can do thats going to change that and sabtaogaing all your new relationships isn’t doing anything but hurting yourself i know you feel like you’re meant to be with her but if ya’ll were really meant to be together ya’ll would be.  You worrying about it is not gonna change a thing. So just accept what she said and move on because if not you’ll just remain miserable

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